DEAR ABBY: My sister died suddenly. She hadn’t been ill, and it was a shock. Although she tried hard to have a relationship with me over the years, I had trouble relating to her and we weren’t close.
I am sorry to say that I never took the time to get to know her. I’m left now with many questions about the sister I always had, but never really knew.
As her next of kin, I’m responsible for packing up her things, and I came across several journals. I would like to read them because I feel they would help me to understand her better, but I also feel it might be disrespectful to go through something of hers that was so personal.
What do you think? Would it be wrong to read them? I wish I had her here to talk to instead of journals to snoop through. -- REGRETFUL IN OAKLAND
DEAR REGRETFUL: I’m sorry for your loss, and your regrets. Because you would like to know your sibling, I think you should read her journals. While it’s sad that you have to make her acquaintance in this way, it would be better than never having known her at all.
DEAR ABBY: I love my wife, but I find it difficult to take her to any function where there will be many people. She doesn’t comprehend most conversations. She acts like she’s listening, but if prompted for a reply, it’s obvious she wasn’t.
While she doesn’t seem to care, I find it embarrassing. People tend to shy away from her, leaving her by herself. Because of this, we don’t often get invited back. At Christmas, when I received my invitation to the annual office party, I sent my regrets.