Members of the church welcomed Matthew with open arms. “Our church family was very excited for us,” said Greta. “Our church is very pro-children and several other families within the church and this area have adopted children both domestically and internationally.”
Both Greta and Shawn said that while adoption is rather costly, there are several options to help prospective adoptive parents ease the cost of the process. Many pro-adoption groups exist, as well as organizations that help to provide grants and loans to families.
“It really strengthened my faith and God provided for us,” said Shawn. “Adoptions does come with some financial hurdles but they can all be overcome.”
While the Ottos knew for quite some time they, without a doubt, wanted to adopt, the decision comes with some common misconceptions and concerns.
“Some people are concerned with what will happen if the birth mother decides she wants the baby back,” said Shawn. “We send updates through our attorney every three months to Matthew’s birth mom. Some ask as why we do that. They think if the birth mother sees a bouncy, smiling baby, she’ll want him back, but that’s not the case. We were told that in actuality, getting letters and photos makes the birth mother more confident with her decision.”
“And we know at some point, he may go look for his birth mother. We want him to have a good impression of her. We don’t want her to say that we never sent photos or letters with updates. We want her to feel that she made the right decision for her child,” added Greta.
Indiana laws are also quite favorable to adoptive parents if the birth mother would attempt to get the child back.
In Indiana, birth mothers sign the adoption papers within 24 hours after the birth of the child.