It’s important that you understand the feelings you are experiencing are normal. Anger is a part of the grieving process, and it may take some time for you to get beyond it.
The best way to “get your mind off this” would be to find a safe place to TALK about it. A grief support group would be helpful. Your clergyperson could help you find one and so could your family doctor.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
DEAR ABBY: I am writing regarding the letter from “Appreciative in Hitchcock, Texas” (June 17) about the importance of sending thank-you notes.
Maybe this will help others: When our three children were young, we had a “note rule.” When they received a present, they had five days to write the note. If written within two days, the note only had to be three lines long. On the third day, it was four lines. On the fourth day, five lines. On the fifth day — the gift went to charity!
None of them ever complained about doing their notes, and it became a habit while growing up. We were proud of each of them when their wedding thank-yous were out within a week! — STRICT PARENTS IN ST. LOUIS
DEAR STRICT PARENTS: Good for you! You taught your children that there were consequences for shirking responsibility. That’s an important lesson because the same is true when they become adults.
DEAR ABBY: I was wondering, do you ever read a letter and say to yourself, “If this is all you have to worry about, you’re lucky”? — JEFF IN FORT MCCOY, FLA.
DEAR JEFF: No. I have more respect for my readers than that. However, many people have written me to say that after reading the letters that appear in my column, they felt lucky!